Finding your surrogate is one of the most exciting steps of your journey. At Royal Surrogacy, our experienced matching specialists guide you through every detail to ensure a meaningful, compatible partnership.
How long does matching take?
While many of our intended parents are matched in as little as 2 weeks, the typical timeline ranges from 1 to 6 months. This depends on your specific preferences and criteria.
What to expect from your matching specialist
Our specialists are experts in both the emotional and logistical sides of surrogacy. During your initial consultation, we'll take the time to understand your values, expectations, and hopes for the journey ahead. From there, we personally review our surrogate community to identify candidates who truly align with your family-building vision.
The first meeting
Once we identify a potential match, we'll facilitate an introduction, usually via video call. This is where the surrogate and intended parents can get to know each other, ask questions, and see if the connection feels right. There's no pressure; we move forward only when both parties feel completely comfortable.
How to Find a Surrogate
Surrogate Matching Criteria
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Location
We prioritize matching you with surrogates in surrogacy-friendly states to ensure your parental rights are fully protected. If you live in a state with surrogacy restrictions, don't worry. We'll guide you through working with a surrogate in a state with favorable laws, handling all interstate logistics seamlessly.
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Social & Communication
Every relationship is unique. We match based on your desired level of communication—whether you prefer regular text updates, weekly video calls, or a more independent relationship. We also discuss expectations around visits, attendance at appointments, and post-birth contact to ensure everyone is on the same page.
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Medical Preferences
Medical compatibility is crucial. We align preferences on:
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Embryo transfer: Single vs. multiple embryo transfer
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Selective reduction: Views and comfort levels
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Pregnancy termination: Circumstances and boundaries
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Delivery preferences: Hospital choices, birth plans, and vaccination views
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Financial Alignment
We ensure your budget and compensation expectations align with your surrogate's profile from the very beginning, so there are no surprises once you enter the legal and medical phases.
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Values & Lifestyle
From views on diet and activity during pregnancy to philosophies on prenatal testing, we look at the big picture to match you with someone whose values complement your own.
Preparing for the Surrogate Matching Process
Making the most of your matching experience starts with showing your authentic self. The more we know about you, the better we can advocate for your family.
Share your story.
We encourage you to provide photos of you and your family, along with a personal letter to your future surrogate. These materials help her understand who you are, why you've chosen surrogacy, and what this journey means to you.
Be transparent.
Honesty about your expectations, boundaries, and hopes creates the foundation for a trusting relationship. There's no "perfect" intended parent profile—there's only your story, and the right surrogate will connect with it.
Stay open-minded.
Your ideal match might not check every single box on your initial wishlist. Many of our most successful partnerships have blossomed from unexpected connections built on mutual respect and shared values.